Listen to this, O Job;
Stand still and consider the wondrous works of God. Job 37:14 (NKJV)
Do you know the story of Job, how he lost everything? He lost his children, his animals and riches, and his health, all because God had a conversation with Satan. Then some friends came to visit Job to cheer him up but failed miserably with all their talking. We often focus on how those friends messed up, but today I want to share what they did right, a great lesson for us all.
When you begin reading the book of Job, the friends enter in the second chapter. This first paragraph of their visit tells all the things they did right:
Now when Job’s three friends heard of all this adversity that had come upon him, each one came from his own place—Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite. For they had made an appointment together to come and mourn with him, and to comfort him. And when they raised their eyes from afar and did not recognize him, they lifted their voices and wept; and each one tore his robe and sprinkled dust on his head toward heaven. So they sat down with him on the ground seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his grief was very great. Job 2:11-13 (NKJV)
Did you notice the seven things Job’s friends did right?:
- They came.
- They mourned.
- They comforted.
- They wept.
- They tore their robes.
- They sat down.
- No one spoke for 7 days and nights.
Today’s TEA CUPP: Can we learn from this when we have friends who are grieving or hurting? Yes, we can! Let’s start with the first thing they did and simply come. Sit down and listen to your friend, then cry together. Our friends will always remember how we were there and they will be comforted. I know when I had my first miscarriage and lost our long-awaited baby, it was the friends who came and cried with me that comforted me the most. Even my parents drove all the way across the country, just to sit in lawn chairs with me while I recovered. Then when a friend of mine lost a baby, I knew what to do. I came and cried with her. My friend, just come.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 (NKJV)
Scripture from the New King James Version®